Written By : Monique Lapointe
Hey lovelies! At the age of 17 I moved halfway across the world on my own. Even though I love being independant and living alone, it can be challenging. So, if you are just moving out of your parents house for the first time, here are some tips and advice I have for you to make this experience a little less difficult!
Let yourself get homesick sometimes
When I first moved out, I tried to almost forget about my parents and my old house. I was so scared that I was going to get so homesick and want to come back. After a few months, I realized that it’s okay to let yourself miss home occasionally. Whenever you start to feel homesick, call your parents, look at photos from your childhood, go to sleep early or watch your favourite childhood movies for a night. Tell yourself that you are going to take one night to feel this way and the next morning you are going to wake up ready to conquer adulthood!
Call your parents (but not too often)
Okay, so the reason I wrote “but not too often” is because (from personal experience) talking to your parents every day, multiple times a day will make you miss them more and become homesick. You should call your parents once / twice a week to let them know how you are doing and update them on your life. It’ll make you feel happy to hear their voices.
The thing no one tells you about adulthood is how much stupid (pardon my french) shit you have to do when you live alone. For example there’s cooking, cleaning, laundry, buying groceries, the list goes on and on! It’s such a burden and takes up so much time. That’s why it is important to be organized! Before I used to try to do everything multiple times a week. I was taking up so much time just running to the grocery store!
Here are some simple tips I have to help with organization :
- Take one day (I usually take Sunday’s) to do all your grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning. It usually takes me about 3/4 hours to do this all and then I have the rest of the week to relax!
- Make a grocery list on your phone notes so that you aren’t stressing while standing in the meat department of the supermarket wondering if you need to buy chicken or not.
- Buy enough underwear / socks to last you a full week so you only have to do laundry once a week
- Meal prep so that you can spend less time cooking
But also don’t be oragnized ALL the time
Being a young adult living on your own can be hard sometimes. Between guggling a social life, relationships, school, work and fitness how much time are you really going to have for cooking, cleaning, groceries and laundry? It’s okay if you didn’t have time to make your bed in the morning or if you left a dish in the sink. The world isn’t going to end because you have a pair of jeans laying on the floor. Sometimes it’s more important that you have a good night out with your friends instead of staying inside going the laundry. Remember you don’t have to be as organized as your parents. They were young once too and I’m sure they were eating Top Raman in sweatpants at our age.
Budget yourself for the week / month
Each month I like to write down a budget for myself. This is a great way to make sure you aren’t overspending and saving money because living alone is not cheap!
Here’s an example of my typical monthly budget list :
- Groceries : 30 € a week = 120 € / month
- Laundry : 10 € a week = 40 € / month
- Nails : 45 € / month
- Hair : 85 € / month
- Dinner / drinks / going out : 120 € a month
Get a roommate
If you feel like you are ready to move out of your parents house but don’t feel completely ready to live alone, get a roomate! The great thing about having a roomate is that you always have someone to come home to at the end of the day and talk to. It can either be a friend or someone you just met. Having a roomate can also be so much cheaper!
Buy a pet
I think I would feel so lonely if I didn’t have my cat Cartier living with me. Animals can make great companions. Not only are they extremely cute and furry, but they are also great cuddle buddies! I don’t recommend buying a pet if you can barely keep alive a plant though…
I hope you found these tips & advice useful! Enjoy living on your own because before you know it you may be 40 years old living in a house with kids and pets running around!